Recently my husband lost his job, a job he has had for almost 6 years- working 50+ hours a week and thinking he would retire there, one day running the company. He was so vested in this job he used to talk about it in his sleep.
But a while back things started to go bad, ownership changed and something went wrong, the pressure on his boss changed I guess, from running the company to being fully vested in it and the relationship between my husband and his boss went from good friends (even family friends- we still have him and his wife as emergency contacts for Taylor’s daycare), but work got more stressful, the work wasn’t getting busier in terms of customers, but the organization of the company and treatment of employees started going down hill.
It was affecting Joseph more than he will ever admit, he felt degraded and hurt by how he was talked to at work. Now I wasn’t there, and he has never told me any of the exact events that hurt him so much but I can say without a doubt that it changed him, it got progressively worse over time, and my husband went from a happy, positive, amazingly helpful husband and father to a sad, sensitive, depressed and easily irritated man. This was NOT my husband, I wanted him to quit a long time ago but he kept hoping things would get better, that things would change. It didn’t…. It got to a point at one time where I was seriously considering leaving him, I just couldn’t deal with the changes in him- but I stuck it through, knowing he was in there somewhere and hopefully things would change and he would ‘come back’.
As scary as him not having a job anymore is, financially, I am so happy right now, it has been 11 days since he stopped working and by day 3 my husband was back… his mood was sooo much better, he helped around the house more (especially since my online work is now paying all the bills!) He isn’t as negative as he was just two weeks ago, we are able to talk to each other without walking on eggshells and I am loving it.
So the plan is for him to look for a new job, but here in Lake City those are VERY hard to come by, especially jobs that pay even 3/4’s of what he was making, but he is looking. I am scheduled to start school for the PCT program in May, that should be about 12 weeks. In the meantime he will try to get unemployment if he can’t find something that will make decent wages, but not take a job for minimum wage because that would be less helpful to us than if he was just at home playing the role of ‘stay at home dad’ because I work online so much I have to either put taylor in Daycare or have him watch her while I work, and a McDonalds job would not justify that.
I am making almost enough to support us, now that I have my design page back up and running my income
will should be enough to support us, not nearly with the lifestyle we had before but able to get by until I finish school or he finds a job. We have been wanting to get out of this area for years now, were only staying here because of his job, so now that that is not an issue we are looking at jobs in other areas too.
So yeah, it is big changes, scary changes, the money making rests on me right now and that is scary. But I think it is worth it to have my husband back, to be a family again and that is the most important thing to me- money is only money, as long as we can keep food in our belly and a roof over our head I will take being broke over being unhappy any day. This may be the change that opens up new doors for us, leading us to a new town, better people, and more money in the long run if we play this right.